Some of you may be wondering what it means to be “quiverfull” or “quiver-minded.” Please, allow me to elaborate.
“Quiverfull” gets it’s name from Psalm 127:3-5:
Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate. (NKJV)
The Quiverfull movement is centered around trusting in the Lord to have control over our fertility. We do not believe in the use of birth control, as children are seen as an unmitigated blessing.
I know what you’re thinking. “No birth control? You’re crazy! You could end up with 19 kids, like the Duggars!”
While that is technically true, it’s not likely. The Duggars get media attention because they ended up with far more than the average Quiverful family! Most do not have as many children as the Duggars. The odds are good, though, that we could end up with two or three more. We are very happy with that idea!
Here are some of our reasons for choosing this path for our family:
Firstly, as I stated in my previous post, God has already demonstrated his sovereignty over my/our fertility. I am not proud to admit this, but I was sexually active before marrying my first husband, and I was not always careful. There were so many times I could have become pregnant, but I did not. When I married my ex-husband, however, I was on the pill. Despite actively avoiding it, I became pregnant with my oldest. Three years later, my husband and I tried for nearly a year to conceive, and even sought infertility treatments, which did not help us achieve pregnancy. We did eventually become pregnant, in God’s time, and just three months after giving birth I was once again I pregnant against the odds.
Next, we find the struggle of birth control to be an issue with trust in the Lord. After all, He clearly has shown us that if we’re meant to be pregnant, we will be, on birth control or not. Why bother struggling with Him over this when He has the control anyway? If I trust the Lord with my family’s finances, even with my very salvation, then how can I not trust Him with my fertility?
Another conviction is the reality that us attempting to choose when and how often we have children seems a very selfish view. Children are not like pets, there to amuse us and fit into our schedule. They are people, for whom we are responsible for raising and bringing up in the Lord. They are blessings! If you explore people’s reasons for using birth control, more often than not they are the same anti-child reasons as those which are used to argue for abortion. We are neither anti-blessings, nor are we anti-children. As with any other blessing from above, such as wealth or good health, we embrace our children happily, with open arms.
We also adhere to some of the lesser-known values of the Quiverful movement, such a living a conservative life, modest, feminine apparel for women, and homeschooling, to name a few.
I could probably write an entire book about the realizations we’ve come to in the past three years of our marriage, but now is as good a point as any to stop this post – for the time being. It is getting late, and this mama is ready for bed! My sweet babies are early risers. More to come soon!